Family Ties صلة الرحم

Written on 06/17/2021


إِنَّ الْحَمْدَ لِلَّهِ ، نَحْمَدُهُ وَنَسْتَعِينُهُ وَنَسْتَغْفِرُهُ

وَنَعُوذُ بِاللَّهِ مِنْ شُرُورِ أَنْفُسِنَا وَمِنْ سَيِّئَاتِ أَعْمَالِنَا

مَنْ يَهْدِهِ ٱللَّهُ فَلا مُضِلَّ لَهُ، وَمَنْ يُضْلِلْ فَلَا هَادِيَ لَهُ 

وَنَشْهَدُ أَنْ لَآ إِلَٰهَ إِلَّا  ٱللَّهُ وَحْدَهُ لَا شَرِيكَ لَهُ

وَنَشْهَدُ أَنَّ مُحَمَّدًا عَبْدُهُ وَرَسُولُهُ  

 

قَالَ ٱللَّهُ تَعَالَى؛ (أَعُوذُ بِاللَّهِ مِنَ الشَّيْطَانِ الرَّجِيمِ)

يَٰٓأَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ ءَامَنُوا اتَّقُوا اللَّهَ حَقَّ تُقَاتِهِۦ

وَلَا تَمُوتُنَّ إِلَّا  وَأَنْتُمْ مُسْلِمُونَ  

(3:102 Quran)

 

وَقَالَ تَعَالَى؛

يَٰٓأَيُّهَا النَّاسُاتَّقُوا رَبَّكُمُ الَّذِي خَلَقَكُمْ مِنْ نَفْسٍ وَاحِدَةٍ

وَخَلَقَ مِنْهَا زَوْجَهَا وَبَثَّ مِنْهُمَا رِجَالاً كَثِيراً وَنِسَآءً  ۚ 

وَاتَّقُوا اللَّهَ الَّذِي تَسَآءَلُونَ بِهِۦوَالْأَرْحَامَ  ۚ 

إِنَّ اللَّهَ كَانَ عَلَيْكُمْ رَقِيباً

(4:1 Quran)

 

وَقَالَ تَعَالَى؛

يَٰٓأَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا اتَّقُوا اللَّهَ وَقُولُوا قَوْلاً سَدِيداً

يُصْلِحْ لَكُمْ أَعْمَالَكُمْ وَيَغْفِرْ لَكُمْ ذُنُوبَكُمْ  ۗ

وَمَنْ يُطِعِ اللَّهَ وَرَسُولَهُۥ فَقَدْ فَازَ فَوْزاً عَظِيماً

(70-71 :33 Quran)

 

فَإِنَّ أَصْدَقَ الْحَدِيثِ كِتَابُ اللَّهِ تَعَالَى

وَأَحْسَنُ الْهَدْيِ هَدْيُ مُحَمَّدٍ ﷺ  

وَشَرُّالأُمُورِ مُحْدَثَاتُهَا وَكُلُّ مُحْدَثَةٍ بِدْعَةٌ 

وَكُلُّ بِدْعَةٍ ضَلالَةٌ  وَكُلُّ ضَلالَةٍ فِي النَّارِ

 

أَمَّا بَعْدُ

 

All praise is due to Allah SWT, Lord of the worlds, The Cherisher, The Sustainer. 

May peace and blessings be upon our beloved Prophet Muhammad ﷺ, his noble family, his companions and all those who follow their guidance till the Day of Reckoning.

 

My dear respected brothers & sisters;

 

The khutbah today is a reminder on how important it is for us to maintain صلة الرحم or to maintain our family relationships. 
 

Maintaining صلة الرحم starts with our relationship with our parents. Our parents were the means by which we were brought into this world; and our parents took care of us when we were small and helpless.

 

Allah SWT says:

وَٱخْفِضْ لَهُمَا جَنَاحَ ٱلذُّلِّ مِنَ ٱلرَّحْمَةِ وَقُل رَّبِّ ٱرْحَمْهُمَا كَمَا رَبَّيَانِى صَغِيرًا

And lower to them the wing of humility out of mercy and say, "My Lord, have mercy upon them as they brought me up [when I was] small."

(Quran 17:24)

 

And Allah SWT says:

 

قُلْ تَعَالَوْا۟ أَتْلُ مَا حَرَّمَ رَبُّكُمْ عَلَيْكُمْ ۖ أَلَّا تُشْرِكُوا۟ بِهِۦ شَيْـًٔا ۖ وَبِٱلْوَٰلِدَيْنِ إِحْسَٰنًا ۖ...

Say, "Come, I will recite what your Lord has prohibited to you. [He commands] that you not associate anything with Him, and to parents, good treatment..."

(Quran 6:151)

 

Dear respected brothers and sisters;

 

We do not get to choose who our families are. It is Allah SWT who creates families and their members. Without any doubt, every family has its own trial, its own set of problems that no one else can really understand. 
 

Maintaining صلة الرحم means upholding relations with our families through the good and tough times; not only returning good behaviour when they are good to us, but also upholding our relations even if they turn away from us. 

 

Abdullah ibn Amr RA reported: The Prophet ﷺ said, “The one who keeps good relations with his family is not the one who recompenses the good done to him. Rather, the one who keeps good relations with his family is the one who continues to be good to them despite having been cut off by them.”

 

This is the challenge Allah SWT has put for the believer; to be good and righteous towards family members that one has issues with. Do this, and prepare to receive the blessings of Allah SWT. InshaAllah, Allah will increase our Rizq, extend our life spans and accept our good deeds.

 

Anas ibn Malik RA reported: The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, “Whoever is pleased to have his provision expanded and his life span extended, let him keep good relations with his family.”

 

Abu Huraira RA reported: The Messenger of Allah  said, “Verily, the deeds of the children of Adam are presented every Thursday, when night turns into Friday. The deeds are not accepted from one who severed his family ties.”

 

Allah SWT warns us that if we cut off our family ties, Allah will deprive us of His Mercy.

 

Abdur Rahman ibn ‘Awf RA reported: The Prophet ﷺ said, “Allah said: I am Allah and I am the Merciful. I created the womb and I derived it from My name. Whoever upholds it, I will uphold him. Whoever severs it, I will deprive him of My mercy.”

 

May Allah SWT forgive and bless our beloved fathers and mothers; and help us to maintain our family ties. Ameen.

 

أَقُولُ قَوْ لِي هَذَا، وأَسْتِغْفِرُاللَّهَ الْعَظِيمَ لِي وَلَكُمْ

وَلِسَائِرِالْمُسْلِمِينِ ، فَاسْتَغْفِرُوهُ ، إِنَّهُ هُوَ الْغَفُورُ الرَّحِيمُ

 


Second khutbah:

 

بِسْمِ اللَّهِ ، وَالْحَمْدُ لِلَّهِ ، وَالصَّلَاةُ وَالسَّلَامُ عَلَى رَسُولِ اللَّهِ ﷺ 

أَنَّ النَّبِيَّ  قَالَ؛ بَلِّغُوا عَنِّي وَلَوْ آيَةً

 

 

Dear respected brothers and sisters; 

 

Through the Mercy of Allah SWT, we may continue to benefit our beloved parents even if they have passed away into the next life. In fact, one scholar mentioned they would need our support more than ever; through our dua, seeking forgiveness on their behalf, giving sadaka on their behalf, and maintaining relations with their loved ones.

 

Abdullah ibn Umar RA reported: The Prophet ﷺ said, “Among the best acts of righteousness is to keep relations with a man who was loved by one’s father.”

 

Abdullah ibn Umar RA reported: The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, “Whoever would like to maintain relations with his father in his grave, let him maintain relations with his father’s brothers after him.”

 

Finally, Abu Huraira RA reported: The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, “Verily, Allah Almighty will raise the status of his righteous servants in Paradise and they will say: O Lord, what is this? Allah will say: This is due to your child seeking forgiveness for you.”

 

May Allah SWT give us tawfiq to benefit from what has been shared today. Ameen.

 

Dua: 

اَللَّهُمَّ اغْفِرْ لِلْمُسْلِمِيْنَ وَالْمُسْلِمَاتِ

وَالْمُؤْمِنِيْنَ وَالْمُؤْمِنَاتِ اْلأَحْيَاءِ مِنْهُمْ وَاْلأَمْوَاتِ

إِنَّكَ سَمِيْعٌ قَرِيْبٌ مُجِيْبُ الدَّعَوَاتِ

 

رَبَّنَا لَا تُؤَاخِذْنَآ إِن نَّسِينَآ أَوْ أَخْطَأْنَا ۚ
رَبَّنَا وَلَا تَحْمِلْ عَلَيْنَآ إِصْرًا كَمَا حَمَلْتَهُۥ عَلَى ٱلَّذِينَ مِنْ قَبْلِنَا ۚ 
رَبَّنَا وَلَا تُحَمِّلْنَا مَا لَا طَاقَةَ لَنَا بِهِۦ ۖ وَٱعْفُ عَنَّاوَٱغْفِرْ لَنَا وَٱرْحَمْنَآ ۚأَنْتَ مَوْلَىٰنَا فَٱنْصُرْنَا عَلَى ٱلْقَوْمِ ٱلْكَٰفِرِينَ


رَبَّنَا ظَلَمْنَا أَنفُسَنَا وَإِن لَّمْ تَغْفِرْ لَنَا 

وَتَرْحَمْنَا لَنَكُونَنَّ مِنَالْخَاسِرِينَ

 

رَبَّنَا لاَ تُزِغْ قُلُوبَنَا بَعْدَ إِذْ هَدَيْتَنَا وَهَبْ لَنَا مِن لَّدُنكَ رَحْمَةً 

إِنَّكَ أَنتَ الْوَهَّابُ


رَبَّنَا آتِنَا فِي الدُّنْيَا حَسَنَةً وَفِي الْآخِرَةِ حَسَنَةً 

وَقِنَا عَذَابَ النَّارِ

 

عِبَادَ اللَّهِ؛ 

إنَّ اللَّهَ يَأْمُرُ بِالْعَدْلِ وَالْإِحْسَانِ  وَإِيتَاءِ ذِي الْقُرْبَىٰ  

وَيَنْهَىٰ عَنِ الْفَحْشَاءِ وَالْمُنْكَرِ وَالْبَغْيِ ۚ

يَعِظُكُمْ لَعَلَّكُمْ تَذَكَّرُونَ

Indeed, Allah orders justice and good conduct and giving to relatives and forbids immorality and bad conduct and oppression. He admonishes you that perhaps you will be reminded.

(Quran 16:90)     

 

فَاذْكُرُوا اللَّهَ الْعَظِيمَ يَذْكُرْكُمْ، وَاشْكُرُوهُ عَلَى نِعَمِهِ يَزِدْكُمْ  

وَلَذِكْرُ اللَّهِ أَكْبَرُ، وَاللَّهُ يَعْلَمُ مَا تَصْنَعُونَ

  

وَأَقِمِ ٱلصَّلَوٰةَ

 


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